For you who have herpes and are married for years only!(Uninformed ppl please dont answer).I am dating a girl with herpes (I dont have), and I really like her. And I know that if we end up together (marry her), that I am likely to contracted the disease. Do you think the pain of the disease worth the sacrifice? I want to have normal intimacy/sex life (avoid outbreak is fine, but I want no condom and worry-free in exploring each other's sexuality in between outbreaks), and instead of worrying about the risk 80% of the time, is it a viable option to just deliberately acquire the disease but in a way so the symptoms/recurrences are as mild as possible?

the best thing to do is go to the doctor together and find out all the options to have a normal and safe healthy sex life together. my brother was once married to a girl who had it and they were together almost ten years and he never contracted the disease. I would not advise getting it on purpose for this is something you are stuck with for life and even though I wish you the best of luck you may not always be together. You wouldn't want to carry that risk around later in life to worry with or possibly give to someone else I'm sure. there are many things available today to help with outtbreaks and as long as you are open and honest about it together you have a great chance at a normal happy life. good luck

there will always be a risk and that is something to worry about but try not to let it affect your sex life with your partner. u are free to not wear a condom when she doesn't have an outbreak since she will be less contagious. if she is taking medication as well that would reduce the risk of passing the virus on. i would agree with the first person and from personal experience that u do NOT want to aquire this. just keep both of your immune systems strong and don't freak out ,or stress out too much about simple things and she should take medication. that is one of the ways to keep outbreaks to a minimum.