I have been with my bf for about 1 1/2 yrs, I love him with all my heart, but smetimes think, that in the long run, we are not going to end up together. My reason is this...the main thing we clash on...I would like to eventually get married have a traditional Mexican wedding. He doesnt want to get married at all...just live together, a/c he says weddings are just a waste of money, and then people get divorced anyway. We are only 21, and I personally have no hurry in getting married, but dont want to be in a relationship for years...and not get anyhting out of it. He is also thinking of moving out of state and has asked if I will come with, I've told him I cannot follow him without some sort of commitment...his answer is you obvously dont love me as much as you say you do. He really is a great guy and I wouldnt trade him for the world, except fo this. Ever since I can remember I have said I will not live with a guy unless i'm married my reason being I want a wedding, and by living....together my wedding dreams go down the drain. You know the saying "why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free."

Don't worry. Life is life.

Your doing the right thing by wanting a wedding before you move in together. He has commitment issues and that's not good for you. Maybe he's not the one for you. just a thought. good luck

i HATE when guys say that "well, i guess you don't love me"...well he doesn't love you either if he doesn't even consider your reasons why you want the wedding. you may love him...but there are plenty of fish in the sea. you're not the only one who wants to get married, there are guys who do too, so don't give up. if he liked/loved you as much as he says, he won't leave without you

Hmmm sounds like something I just did a research paper on for one of my college classes... If you want the full research paper email me at breakfastclub1987@yahoo.com That should be a red flag for you, "people just get divorced any way" and playing the guilt trip when you tell him "I've told him I cannot follow him without some sort of commitment" He plays the guilt trip and says "you obvously dont love me as much as you say you do" thats manipulation honey and it will only get worse trust me I've been there. With no legal binding or marriage, he could just up and leave anytime he wants... I think you should reconsider this guy... this is a MAJOR issue... email me if you want the whole research paper

you go girl..he is scared in commitment which is not good..imagine if hes done with you..he just gonna throw you just like a piece of meat...In love people should compromising each other..Ask yourself if hes the one...When i got married i ask my husband if why he loves me?and what thing he can do to prove that...And he said "i want you to be with me for the rest of my life"...for me people who dont want marriage is scared in marriage are not gonna end up good..See?your just thinking a now what wedding you like and his thinking of divorce now....your still young take your time...great guys doesnt mean the right guy..Who knows maybe after 2,3 months you will see who you are really looking for..As of now enjoy your life and be a woman...

You two are ripe for some relationship counseling, An objective therapist will listen to both of you, and he or she is trained to ask questions that are designed to help you reach agreement and compromise. The therapist won't solve your problems, but will help you find ways to resolve them yourselves. Don't delay. Get this issue resolved, or decide once and for all that you can't agree, and go your separate ways.