IT IS INFURIATING...all women at the top had to trade SOMETHING to get there...if they take maternity leaves, promotions pass them by. I want career success and I want children, but that isnt the point. How come men dont have to deal with these huge debates????? I refuse to have my kid suffer with crap nannies but at the same time, why must my future dreams suffer as well? why not his???? why arent we seeing more CEO women like carly fiorina? she never had kids, no crap she couldnt while she was traveling 60% of the time. When will this change?!?!?! What are my options?!?!?!! I am so enraged that I have found no good solution. :(:(

OK 1 I would have no problem with staying home while you bring home the bacon. However, I dont want more children so then what?? Not to mention I am already married.

Because the men SUCK at staying home.. so we end up doing it all.

u cant have it both ways, either u are at home looking after your children or you in a jet flying aroung the world for a company, although if you are with a good company, and u are high up already, when u take maternity and time off, they should not forget about ur hard work.

they think its women work to do

"Because the men SUCK at staying home.. so we end up doing it all."HAH. So by your reaction we can say "women SUCK at work which is why we have to do the work?" Didn't think so. :-)Since you've pasted your question twice, I'll paste my answer:As a "man" it's obvious to me you made the wrong life-decisions and are now blaming your husband for those mistakes, just as this answer will not be chosen.I *do* understand the plight of a woman in a patriarchal society. This is not the problem. You want him to be in your position and sacrifice his career, right? Either way one of you suffers.If this is what you wanted out of life you shouldn't have had kids OR you should have chosen a mate that would allow you to pursue your career over his. OR found a mate who's career goals were compatible with yours, such as an artist or Internet guy who could work from home.So to answer your question, look at it from this point of view and decide what you want out of life. Talk to your husband, if your career is more important than your family, well . . . you will know what to do.

This happens ONLY if you let it..dont let men or anyone else dictate your life...you decide!!