Been dating my bf about 3 months. My grandfather fell ill and we had to rush out of state (just got back today) not a little ill, but only has a few weeks to live. Now my bf knew it would be hard for me and we only spoke 3 times while i was out of town. the first time he cut it really short, the second we got disconnected after a few min and he didn't call back, and the last time was after i left him a vm. we talked and i told him i feel like he just didn't care, that i needed him to be there for me during this hard time and he just wasn't. and that if he cant be there for me now, it wouldnt be any different in the future. so he apologized and said it wasn't the case at all. said he would call today after work, and didn't.... so what do i do?we r both 24, and he's been very serious about "us"

Tell him to care more about your feelings.

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Im being serious too, and take it from me--- all the signs are there, break it off fast. You are about to get used like an old tube sock. Or stick with it if you are into that sort of thing. Many girls are.

He doesn't care. At least not with a genuine heart. He sounds very young to me.

I suspect (there is a piece of the puzzle missing) there is nothing you can do at this point.I feel it may involve another girl. Sorry, to break that to you.You deserve better.

DON'T BOTHER WITH HIM.....GIVE HIM SPACE.IF HE DIDN'T RETURN YOUR CALL...DON'T CALL HIM ANYMORE!!!!IF HE REALLY CARED HE WOULD BE THERE NOW.....

Three months is not long at all to be in a serious relationship. Even though it's not your fault that you are going through a very personal, sad time in your life, it's too soon for him to handle the emotional ties that you are bound too right now. Sorry, but do your own thing right now, it's too soon for him and you have too much on your plate right now to be worrying about a man.

It is evident, he has not gained "trust in you."<}:-})

Maybe he still likes you, but is uncomfortable with tragedy and does not know how to handle the situation. He may feel that isolation is the best way to deal with your situation. I think you should ask him if this is the case and let him know how you feel about it. I wouldn't pressure him to be there if he is not comfortable with these type of situations, however if you continue to date longer (three months is really not that long), he may become more comfortable and able to meet your needs.

leave his a$$

Hi.. from a guy's point of view, you may be over reacting just a little. I guess with all the things happening around you, you have a justified cause for being over-reacting. He's just busy n probably wanted you to spend more time with your grandad. Maybe he is taking the chance using this time to do the things he had postponed due to spending time with you. You have lots to think about right now, dont let this bother you. he'll call you for sure. take care.

he has his own issues about sick and dying people. he needs u to understand just as much as you need him.

well then drop the dufus call one of your other guy friends i am dead sure there is a guy in your phonebook who cares way more than him

If he really cared about you, nothing would stop him from getting back with you. He would support you through this sad and difficult time. But don't look at this as a bad thing, he's showing you his true colors, so unless you want more of this in the future, cut him loose and make way for someone more deserving of your time and affection. Don't sweat it, or loose sleep, or shed one tear for him, he has done you a favor. Trust me...Read the book, "He just ain't that into you." and learn some tried and true lessons about behaviors when dating. Good Luck

Stop callin and do anything to keep yourself occupied. YOu just a tremendous lose and need to grieve. If he calls dont answer try 3 days and then answer and tell him your busy or occupied. After that if he calls just act normal. Not tryin to play games just tryin to see how much he cares and gives you time to think if you wanna really deal with this guy at all. Try it. Hope things go well. If all fails move on to many fish in the sea. Smooches

Forget about it. It's not worth it. If he is not there for you when you need it then what's th epoint. It's sad when guys do that.

It's difficult to know how to deal with this kind of thing. Your boyfriend doesn't know what to say; so he's trying to avoid the issue. You should know this. You love your grandfather and you want someone to help you get through this. Your boyfriend is clearly not able to do so. You might have to put him on the back burner for now. If you keep complaining about his lack of concern, you'll push him away. Then again, if his behavior bothers you, he may not be the man for you. Understand that death is a part of life. Be thankful for the time you've had with your grandfather and try to be strong.