He says he never feels like he has 100% of me! What the heck does that mean anyway? I do my best to be a good wife and mother. I stay home with the kids.I have a hot meal ready for him every night he comes home from work.His clothes are always washed and neatly folded for him.I keep the house clean and organizedI take care of ALL the finances (even his child support payments)The kids are always getting the best care, fed and clean and happy.He gets laid, not as much as he wants but a few times a week on average.I do ALL of his shopping as far as clothes.The house is always stocked with things we need, I stay on top of everything.He gets sooo mad if I think an ACTOR is good looking, I mean COME ON!! I actually, out of respect for him, never ever say "Oh he's so hot!" but he'll ask me when we are watching a movie and when I say well yea sort of, he'll flip out. He'll say things like "oh you wish you were with him and you want to f*ck him, huh?"I feel it is totally degrading and I never give him reason to be jealous. I am the most faithful (so is he) and committed wife. I don't feel that i deserve to be treated that way. I have men hit on me all the time and I never reciprocate that, NEVER! What can I do to help him understand that he is really hurting my feelings.I'm not the type to be all over him and totally submissive and I think that's what he means by not having "100%" of me, but that's how I was from the beginning. That's what made me more attractive to him. He doesn't like clingy needy girls or even someone who is hanging all over him all the time.My questions is how can I communicate to him that I feel disrespected.Also, isn't it totally normal for people to think celebrities are good looking. I mean don't some people have full blown crushes on celebrities. I mean it's so ridiculous that he even achknowledges that I think one or two actor are cute. They are almost like fictitious characters!!There is NO WAY in hell I would ever leave him, he is near perfect except for this. So please don't tell me to leave him, that's out of the question.btw, he's 27, he works about 60-70 hrs a week (physical work) and is a great father. So i like doing things like that for him when it comes to housework, laundry, he'd never have the time to do it anyway...na, he's not a cheater, never was. I know this for a fact.no he's not bored, he does housework too and outdoors housework all the time.Quasi - it was like a one night stand, they never had a relationship, he wasn't attracted to her.He DOESN'T cheat. He GIVES me his cell phone when I can't find mine. I handle all the bills so I see everything. He doesn't use email and when he does he tells ME to send it out or check it. I know everything about him. I even know when he buys a coffee - I have access to all his accounts. Geez, plus I'm not stupid, he can't even secretly by me a gift without me finding out.

Yikes...

Well he certainly read my mind!

sounds like you need a change of spouseor give him a good talking to.cummunication is the key

Run like hell.Eat Funyuns.

He seems very immature and I would grow VERY weary of this behavior in a grown man. Only you can decided what your limts are in this game.Jealousy has no place in a healthy marriage and is a waste of energy and focus.

Your husband needs counseling as soon as possible. His attitude is currently causing mental abuse but could soon lead to physical abuse as well. This could be a dangerous situation. Seek help immediately.

Sounds familiar, lol...In all honesty, he may be TERRIFIED that you would ever in his wildest dreams leave him. (Sounds like he has it great!) Best thing you can do is try to have a serious heart to heart with him and/or talk him into counseling (may be difficult). This type of behavior ends marriages all too often. I wish you the best and know how you feel!

If he's communicating the way he feels to you apparently it bothers him to some degree. Try being a littel more affectionate and submissive.

Wow. Yes, it is normal to still think other people are good looking. You aren't doing anything wrong from what you described. I'll just say this; The behavior he described is so over-the-top insecure that he doubtless has some severe emotional/relational issues. He, and you both together, need counseling.

your jerk off husband acts like alot of men out there i mean i wish i could find a great person that you seem to be. i am not lazy and i have never ask for my girl or ex to make me dinner every night,wash my clothes etc.. this is why divorces happen weather the guy doesn't get pampered enough or the girl doesn't i mean your husband should appreciate you more and if he doesn't start to change go seek help. we all like the actors and actress out there but its not like any of us normal people will ever get a chance to meet them in person

damn... do u have a sister?!

Your hubby has some major insecurity issues and is on the way to becoming a bit of a control freak. Best get both of you into counseling now before this gets worse, which it will...it is important for you to remove yourself from this equation; it has nothing whatsoever to do with you and how you keep the house and the kids, etc it is all to do with him and his feeling of insecurity and fear of loss..if he keeps this up he can lose you by annoying you to the point where you might want to leave him, which is why it is so important for the two of you to get into counseling NOW.

You do lots (all!) of wonderful things, but make sure you do whatever it is that makes him feel loved- the more he feels love the less insecure he will be. Keep in mind though his behavior borders on abuse, so keep your eyes wide open.

he needs help, it is crazy to be that jealous. Have you ever asked him why he feels that he does not have you 100%. You are right, it is normal for people to think that an actor or actress is good looking. Try talking to him and asking him why he feels that way. Again it really sounds like he needs help too.

It sounds like he is over controlling you. It's going to get worse. When you finally leave him he will start stalking you.

You are extremely attractive and sexy and I can see why he gets jealous. Just knowing that you are always stared at would bother me too. But what is the true reason he is jealous? Lets look at it. He seem like a nice looking guy and he just might, just might that is be cheating or has cheated on you in the past. This would give him more of a reason to believe you are cheating. This thought process would help him to forgive himself for his unfaithfulness. Once again I am not saying he is or he isn't cheating but it sounds to me like he may be. He loves you and there for has to find a way to cure his guilt. This is just my opinion. Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!I hope I get to see you on the roads in NJ (where I also live). You do have a face I don't think I can forget!

I would just ask him why he feels like he never has 100% of you. Tell him you are interested on working on your problems but you have to know exactly what you are doing wrong. If he refuses to tell you what's wrong, then tell him that he needs to stop complaining. Make sure you gently point out all of the positive things you do and tell him that taking care of your family consumes all of your time. The next time he asks you if you think another man is attractive, just tell him "oh he is nothing compared to you" and let it be at that. You can also stroke his ego now and then, men love that. Hope it helps.

He sounds like a major control freak. This possessiveness could get worse. Try to talk to him and make him understand how this is making you feel. Some men just don't get it. My ex-husband was like this too and I finally left him after 20 years of putting up with his jealous (for no reason) crap.

Sounds like hes baiting you to get into an argument. Thats not healthy for your marriage. Hes feeling very insecure and sometimes theirs no rhyme or reason for it. Nothing you've done or can do will make it better. If it gets to be an ongoing problem the only solution is talking it out with him and then counseling before it progresses. You should never fall into the thought pattern of it being your fault or something you did. Its not. This is entirely on him but you need to get him and yourself help.Good Luck!

beloved~my husband is the EXACT SAME way. Let me first say that the jealousy is actually just insecurity. He loves you to death and he's afraid that you might find someone else attractive and leave him. I understand the frustration because, like you, I would never think of cheating on my husband and it would piss me off that he even THINKS I would. Would I do all I do if I was cheating? sigh...so I feel your pain.My encouragement is this...it is possible for him to grow out of that. Behind the jealousy is insecurity. Behind the insecurity is fear. Fear. The bible says that "perfect love casts out fear". We as wives try to give that perfect love to our husbands but really, its the perfect love of God that he needs to have. I could tell you stories about the extent to which my husband is 'jealous' about other people. The comments about someone on tv is minor compared to some of the stuff I've had to deal with. BUT...he's gotten better. The more he focuses on God, and trusts God..and refuses to let fear control his mind...the less jealous and possessive he becomes. There is light at the end of the tunnel beloved~ if you get God involved.

Marriage counseling might help

If he is perfect except for this, well maybe you should just be so flattered that it means so much to him, and humor him a little. It's like when guys have to deal with what color towels should we have in the bathroom, or whether or not she thinks porn is cheating. If everything else is perfect, well we tolerate the parts that aren't because we love them.

Abusive People: Top 10 Signs of an Abusive Person Abusive people are often survivors of abuse themselves. Signs of an abusive person can range from emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive person is also a verbally abusive person or a combination of all abuse types. A sign of an abusive person can usually be found after a few dates/encounter's if you pay attention, ask a lot of questions and do some investigating into their past.Abusive relationships are characterized by control games, violence, jealousy and withholding sex and emotional contact. An emotionally abusive man is harder to pinpoint and a skilled, abusive person can easily make you think you are not good enough or that everything is your fault. It is just as difficult to recover from emotional abuse as it is from physical abuse. Emotional abuse causes low self-esteem and depression. An abusive person may tell you they love you or that they will change, so you will not leave. However, the more times you take them back, the more control they will gain. Empty promises become the norm. Make sure you pay attention to their actions and not merely their words. As the old saying goes, “actions speak louder than words.” Abusive relationships are never abusive in the beginning. If they were, people would dump the abusive person immediately in search of a good person.We have broken down the top 10 signs of an abusive person. If your partner exhibits one or more of these signs, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship and seek help or get out. 1. Jealousy & Possessiveness Becomes jealous over your family, friends, and co-workers. Tries to isolate you. Views their partner and children as their property instead of as unique individuals. Accuses you of cheating or flirting with other people without cause. Always asks where you have been and with whom in an accusatory manner.2. 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Abusive behavior can be a generational dysfunction and abused people have a great chance of becoming abusers. People who abuse animals are much more likely to abuse their partners also.If you continue to stay in an abusive relationship because you think, they will change and start treating you well, think again. An abusive person does not change without long-term therapy. Group counseling sessions are particularly helpful in helping abusive person recognize their abusive patterns. Type a personality types seem to be more prone to abusive behavior due to their aggressive nature. Drugs and alcohol can create or further escalate an abusive relationship. Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous are excellent programs for an addict. The abuser’s partner should also seek help for their codependent behavior at Codependents Anonymous.If the abusive person is not willing to seek help, then you must take action by protecting yourself and any children involved by leaving. By staying in an abusive relationship, you are condoning it. If you are scared, you will not be able to survive because of finances, pick up the phone book and start calling shelters. Try calling family, friends and associates and ask them if they can help or know of ways to help. Once you leave, the abuser may cry and beg for forgiveness but do not go back until you have spoken to their counselor and have completed long-term therapy successfully. Be prepared for the abuse to increase after you leave because the abuser has lost control. If your partner is not willing to seek help for their abusive behavior, your only option is to leave. Good luck and God bless****

If he's that jealous, tell him to find another hobby as his 'jealousy-hobby' really sucks. He's got too much time on his hands if all he does is work. From what you said, besides working, you do EVERYTHING else. I bet if he weren't so bored, he wouldn't be like that.

TRY TO TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM EVERYTHING U JUST WROTE. U DO EVERYTHING THAT U ARE SUPPOSE TO SO HE IS JUST A INSECURE DICK. IM NOT REALLY SURE WHAT IT IS THAT HE DOES THAT U LIKE SO MUCH ONLY WORK!

he's really insecure about you he doesn't feel like he deserves you and in reality he doesn't. at least unless he can get it resolved . it's a problem he has that he has to be willing to change. you really need to see a marriage counselor. it might help to try and boost his ego a bit by telling him you appreciate what he does for the family. evidently he makes fairly good money, other wise you wouldn't be able to be a stay at home job. as you do so much he may not feel needed, all men like to feel needed. and by the way good job !!! i think you do your share, have you tried talking to him about it? communication, with out judgment is hard for a lot of people ,hang in there!!

So if this guy is not cheating, does house work and sounds like an all around great guy, and he was jelous before you got married...why did you marry him and what is it you want? Sounds like you are being a big baby to me. You got what every other woman is yelling that she wants, but you are still not satisfied.

You are very attractive. My wife also is very attractive,,Me?well,,I'm just a regular guy. Sometimes when we married good looking people we feel that we should worry. Iknow, I know we should trust,,I don't think is about you gals,,is about our own insecurities..We know our wives get looked at and we feel inadequate. But because we are men, we tend to hide those feelings behind jealousy and ,machismo. He is insecure,,nothing you did. With lots of TLC and maybe some good talks it should get better....Thanks for being an awesome wife to him by the way!

They don't come 100% perfect...Look, you do look great, and I'm sure that a lot of men would be more than interested in you. There is no way your husband can ignore that. It would take a man who is extremely sure of himself to think that he "has 100% of" an extremely attractive wife like you. Perhaps you should be happy that your husband is not that conceited type who takes your love for granted. I'm sure he very much appreciates what you are doing for him and with him, he just doesn't want to lose you. If that's your husband's only fault perhaps you should just get used to it and play the game so as not to touch his sensitive spot.

He is a little immature and insecure. It's not necessarily a bad thing. But depending on how much it bothers you, it could eventually turn into a problem if you build up resentment. You sound like the perfect woman except for the sex part. Most guys are lucky if they can get their wives to do just two of the many things you listed that you do. Your husband has no idea how good he has it; he takes you for granted. Maybe you could find some ways to help him become for comfortable in the relationship.But consider this, if he does feel someday that he has 100% of you, he may become bored also. A little jealousy can be a good thing. It can help keep you both wanting to please and impress each other. If one party feels that the other one will not leave them no matter what happens, they may test it out. This of course is a breeding ground for destructive behavior (alcoholism, cheating, drug abuse, neglect, etc.). I'm not saying that if he knows he has all of you that he will lose interest and start cheating. What I am saying is that maybe you both should learn to be a little more accepting and understanding of jealousy.He really needs to weigh out his jealousy issues and figure out how important some things really are. Here's an example. An ex of mine expressed that she was attracted to the actor Josh Hartnet. She also had a tendency to cheat on me with guys she found attractive. I know for a fact she would have left me for Josh Hartnet if given the opportunity. Lack of loyalty was one of the main reasons we split up. My current girl has also expressed an attraction to the same actor. Because of the relationship we have, involving a high level of trust, I do not care which actors, singers, etc. she may be attracted to. She would not cheat on me with any of them, and I would show her the same respect. It's all about trust and respect.If you mention that you think Antonio Banderas is a very attractive man, that should be okay. I mean... he IS. If you say to your friends in front of your husband that Antonio is so hot, and that you would ride him all night long, THAT might be crossing the line. Again, respect and trust. Help each other learn it.

I kinda like jealousy. Makes me feel loved, protected and looked out for. I know that's not a popular answer, but it is how I feel.

should have talked to the broad he had the kid with. Bet she could have given you the heads up on this psycho case.

my husband is jealous also, and it drives me crazy sometimes. The thing is, I'm the only woman he has ever loved and he was not my first love. So it bothers him about my ex's etc. I know how you feel, this is mine's only real fault as well. Good luck, I guess constant reassurance is all we can do.

He's not supposed to get 100% of you. You are an individual who has a separate life. A marriage is about partnership, not spending every waking second focused on him. I don't have an answer for you, I'm just relieved my husband loves me enough to respect who I am as a person and we have a better marriage for it. I mean, does your husband even thank you for all the work you do on a daily basis? If either of us wash dishes, we take to second to be thankful. It's important not get lazy because laziness breeds disrespect. So if you have trouble communicating this to him, think about seeing a third party to mediate. It's not a big issue, but ignored, it will develop into something bigger. Uh, I guess I did have an answer!

Sounds like he's just a bit insecure with himself. It may or may not be a reflection on you. It could be childhood problems of not feeling good enough. And/or it could be he doesn't feel your love through the actions that you mentioned. First and foremost, it really sounds like you're in love with him. If this is true, understand that no man is perfect (or woman). Try to see past this pimple that you don't like and focus on what you do love about him. I don't think that it sounds like a deal breaker, so try to stay calm while he's upset and focus on showing you do love him. Reacting back will only make him doubt more. Let him feel confident in your love by staying loving.Lastly, maybe try to incorporate more romantic actions into your day. Give him constant love so that he'll feel more confident in your love for him. Some great ideas are listed on www.magicofromance.com.

It is amazing how many woman have no clue. It is amazing how many women are so sure their men don't cheat and they are all wrong. He is extremely jealous because he cheats. Check all his cell phone records, work cell phone too. Check all his email addresses including work. You will find all the answers you are looking for. Here are the facts of life you obviously haven't learned yet:1. There is no Santa2. There might be a Bigfoot3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat4. Marriage ruins all relationships (moving in is the same)5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)6. Life is not fairGood luck and Happy Holidays. Email me if you want to hear the truth. I don't lie.

When my husband got jealous i used to get offended & tell him that he was not to doubt me since i had done everything to gain his trust.. & that i am a respectable & honorable married woman who would never even look at another man.. I told him this mad & one day he finally stopped being jealous.. Worked for me & i hope it works for you too =]God Bless!!Ps. I don't make comments about actors either, lol, he'd get so jealous!! ...Men...

sounds like you husband is a little crazy

I believe he has as everyone has already mentioned, insecurity issues and that is nothing that you can make him get over. Only he, can get over that issue and I hope he does it fast b/c that can become a real problem later on in life and no way to be acting. That's asking for trouble.My spouse and I have a celebrity sex list, just a silly thing that if we could get a freebie non-cheating sex with a celebrity who would we pick. We're aware of the chances of that happening are nil but we're both trusting in one and other to know that we have each other's back. As you know on my 360, and some emails I get. My spouse is trusting and I don't think anything would waiver that, aside from an obvious cheating. As I said above, your husband has issues that he needs to deal with, all you can do is make sure he has no just cause for the alarm but at the same time, don't lose yourself in that mix b/c of his insecurities. You're human and you should be able to feel and find other men attractive without a guy thinking you're about to eff him.Perhaps, an idea is to show him the answers to this question, i've done questions I've asked to my spouse to show him what an idiot he can look like. Perhaps that's your next option. Another thing is perhaps have someone, a family member talk to him...he needs a wake up call b/c this will take a toll on you.

Jealousy is simple, it means your husband is very insecure and has a low self esteem... That's it, nothing fancy or mysterious with Jealousy

So with such a Perfect husband, why would you wanna change them at all ?? None of US Men are perfect and maybe he thinks he doesnt get enough nucly from you dear ?? My suggestion is this just before bedtime, Make him a Favorite Drink and you have one too. And explain to him that your feellng this way. And its hurting your self esteem also. But do it in a Loving Manner and always let him know that your his Babe also. Then Make mad n passionate loves to right afterwards to reinforce the words also Good Luck , and Smiles LP :)

Know I see why you hide your profile from ur husband. LOLBut you are right it is more of a diary.